it's nice to be cherished... thank you Kathy. you are too.
as far as not being liked... I think I sense it always, easily, and right away... and I think I just do what it takes to wiggle away, respectfully and without allowing much "damage"... but maybe I don't recognize it or sense it, at all. bad vibes I sense... and if it's someone who I sense is just out to fuck with me... I bail, if possible. Now, if I have done a person wrong, or said or didn't say something and I have acted in a negative way to someone... that's completely different. On to 33... thank you
I know how you feel, I always say if someone doesn't like me so be it, but that isn't necessarily true because I don't want to be disliked either. In case you're wondering and why I haven't been around in a while I'm the one you talk to on occasion on here and we met actually at Big Apple Comic-Con and you signed my arm LOL ask Gina. I have 14 and a half years of sobriety myself, the last couple months have been rough but I'm hanging in there, and don't worry about your energy or who likes you because I like you for what it's worth
Another eye opening Substack. I have awesome energy as well and have family, friends and colleagues who’ll back that up. Not conceited either, I just do. But I’m no saint and have some people I don’t click with. This part of your post has given me something to think about I really hadn’t before, “So if I’m disliked, it means I have to get down to the unpleasantness of looking closely at my behavior, interactions, and attitude towards the disliker.” I have some self-awareness to work on. I would like you to write about regret. Do you experience it? How do you deal it? I’m particularly interested in regret that resulted from a choice that you made yourself. It could have been avoided as opposed to being a victim of circumstance.
P.S. I know today is your final performance of Head Over Heels and I want to wish you all the best. You did an excellent job as musical director. And I loved Austin. Will be back.
As always a great read! The show is fantastic! I loved the arrangement of the Go-Go's songs. I've passed on your music to all of my nieces. She now has a 2 year old and I am going to get her a drumkit. I'm going to get Gina's sticks. I only have from one of a Go-Go/Delphine/Bluebonnets show and I have one from a Siouxsie concert. Don't stop writing. I can't wait for your next book. Love you 🤟 Renel
Hi Kathy 👋. As always a great read. I'm having a hard time with the death of Sinead. I've never really been concerned with those that hate me. It's very hard for me to explain because I was raised Catholic all through highschool. But I saw something that was wrong and she had the courage to come out and say it on live TV. I love reading your posts. My religion is in the "middle of nowhere" at this moment. Lol. Tell Gina that. Can't wait to see what else is coming! Love you 🤟😘
Hey girl. First off, I wanna congratulate you on your sobriety! FUCKING A!👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
I can't believe this was the first I've heard that! Maybe I did. Oh well. I'll never leave you a cocktail emoji again! Lol...
Next. Feb 14th 2021 VALENTINE'S DAY! 😋was my last 2 shots of a great tequila! Yum! Haven't had a drink or👃 blow since! I don't need it! Next. Sept 24th, it'll be 21 years since I put a cig in my mouff! More money in my pocket! Why am I still broke? SMH.
Next. I couldn't give 2 1/2 shits who likes our doesn't like my ass! I'ma good person! If I ain't your cuppa tea, fuck ya! Be gone with you! If I don't like a person, I lettem know! So stay clear!
Ok. Now to blow some smoke up your ass...beware...
I've always thought you are great. I love reading your postings. I really wanna see the show! Are you gonna be touring with it? I mean, taking it on the road... I work in theater and with bands. I hope you get to South FLORIDUHHHHHHHHH!
Kathy, you're a bad ass!
Thank you for letting us or me, a sub-human, read about your life. Please keep it up. I hope we cross paths someday.
Thank you again for sharing more of your internal life.
Re: the issues of flexibility; kudos on taking up yoga, might I also recommend you look into taiji, qigong, and gyrokinesis/gyrotonics? These have been very helpful to me after a bad car accident over 20 years ago .
I know a person who I really dislike for no obvious reason. After some soul searching I realized it was because he represents the things I don’t like about myself. He’s the mirror I avoid looking into.
I haven’t figured out a way to move past it and since we now live 400 miles apart I doubt that I will.
This really resonated with me. After going through most of my life, up until sometime in my 30's, thinking everyone liked me and I had no flaws as a friend (though, as an introvert, finding love has been the opposite), I had a mind-twisting experience which caused me to have to start taking inventory. So what happens when someone who you thought was a friend (who a lot of people think is a manipulator) suddenly writes you an unsolicited 3-paragraph email on all the reasons people are put off by you? I felt that this person was trying to control me, by using all of the insecurities that she knew I had. But I also knew there were a lot of half-truths. So I had to take inventory of what information I could use, to see where I could be a better friend. I also had to let go of the need for everyone to like me, or to think I'm perfect. So did this person do me a favor?! Or did she do some damage? Probably a bit of both. I ended up deciding that her issues don't mesh well with my issues, so I try to stay away from her. But since that point, I have tried to look at the things I don't like about other people, and ask whether they are reflections of what I may be inadvertently doing.
I love it 🔥💕 thank you… what an honor to get those lyrics written from you! I’ll remember them for sure.
Just for kicks, I am a surgical RN and this particular day we were doing a revision infected total knee replacement. The case had been going for two hours with no end near, and we were listening to pandora Journey station, when the surgeon looked at me and said ‘can you play something else, other than this macho radio station?’
I went to YouTube and looked up “60 punishing minutes “ and hit play. The whole room stopped and smiled and requested to know who was playing and proudly said The Bluebonnets!
After words the surgeon thank me for a great upbeat and unknown (sadly) song , but definitely not for a long time fun of yours.
I’m one of those who wants very much for everyone to like me, who knows that not everyone will like, yet knows that it is absolutely might fault every time that someone does not like me.
❤️ to Rocky, a rockers Cat 🎸
it's nice to be cherished... thank you Kathy. you are too.
as far as not being liked... I think I sense it always, easily, and right away... and I think I just do what it takes to wiggle away, respectfully and without allowing much "damage"... but maybe I don't recognize it or sense it, at all. bad vibes I sense... and if it's someone who I sense is just out to fuck with me... I bail, if possible. Now, if I have done a person wrong, or said or didn't say something and I have acted in a negative way to someone... that's completely different. On to 33... thank you
I know how you feel, I always say if someone doesn't like me so be it, but that isn't necessarily true because I don't want to be disliked either. In case you're wondering and why I haven't been around in a while I'm the one you talk to on occasion on here and we met actually at Big Apple Comic-Con and you signed my arm LOL ask Gina. I have 14 and a half years of sobriety myself, the last couple months have been rough but I'm hanging in there, and don't worry about your energy or who likes you because I like you for what it's worth
Another eye opening Substack. I have awesome energy as well and have family, friends and colleagues who’ll back that up. Not conceited either, I just do. But I’m no saint and have some people I don’t click with. This part of your post has given me something to think about I really hadn’t before, “So if I’m disliked, it means I have to get down to the unpleasantness of looking closely at my behavior, interactions, and attitude towards the disliker.” I have some self-awareness to work on. I would like you to write about regret. Do you experience it? How do you deal it? I’m particularly interested in regret that resulted from a choice that you made yourself. It could have been avoided as opposed to being a victim of circumstance.
P.S. I know today is your final performance of Head Over Heels and I want to wish you all the best. You did an excellent job as musical director. And I loved Austin. Will be back.
YESSSSS! Yoga is the elixir of life!! So happy you've noticed a difference. :)
As always a great read! The show is fantastic! I loved the arrangement of the Go-Go's songs. I've passed on your music to all of my nieces. She now has a 2 year old and I am going to get her a drumkit. I'm going to get Gina's sticks. I only have from one of a Go-Go/Delphine/Bluebonnets show and I have one from a Siouxsie concert. Don't stop writing. I can't wait for your next book. Love you 🤟 Renel
Ohhh what draws you to create with every one that you have including... small joints and big arenas? And who would you like to work with?
Hi Kathy 👋. As always a great read. I'm having a hard time with the death of Sinead. I've never really been concerned with those that hate me. It's very hard for me to explain because I was raised Catholic all through highschool. But I saw something that was wrong and she had the courage to come out and say it on live TV. I love reading your posts. My religion is in the "middle of nowhere" at this moment. Lol. Tell Gina that. Can't wait to see what else is coming! Love you 🤟😘
Hey girl. First off, I wanna congratulate you on your sobriety! FUCKING A!👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
I can't believe this was the first I've heard that! Maybe I did. Oh well. I'll never leave you a cocktail emoji again! Lol...
Next. Feb 14th 2021 VALENTINE'S DAY! 😋was my last 2 shots of a great tequila! Yum! Haven't had a drink or👃 blow since! I don't need it! Next. Sept 24th, it'll be 21 years since I put a cig in my mouff! More money in my pocket! Why am I still broke? SMH.
Next. I couldn't give 2 1/2 shits who likes our doesn't like my ass! I'ma good person! If I ain't your cuppa tea, fuck ya! Be gone with you! If I don't like a person, I lettem know! So stay clear!
Ok. Now to blow some smoke up your ass...beware...
I've always thought you are great. I love reading your postings. I really wanna see the show! Are you gonna be touring with it? I mean, taking it on the road... I work in theater and with bands. I hope you get to South FLORIDUHHHHHHHHH!
Kathy, you're a bad ass!
Thank you for letting us or me, a sub-human, read about your life. Please keep it up. I hope we cross paths someday.
Peace and love, ✌🏼🩷🌹
Eric
Thank you again for sharing more of your internal life.
Re: the issues of flexibility; kudos on taking up yoga, might I also recommend you look into taiji, qigong, and gyrokinesis/gyrotonics? These have been very helpful to me after a bad car accident over 20 years ago .
xx,
Ondine
I know a person who I really dislike for no obvious reason. After some soul searching I realized it was because he represents the things I don’t like about myself. He’s the mirror I avoid looking into.
I haven’t figured out a way to move past it and since we now live 400 miles apart I doubt that I will.
This really resonated with me. After going through most of my life, up until sometime in my 30's, thinking everyone liked me and I had no flaws as a friend (though, as an introvert, finding love has been the opposite), I had a mind-twisting experience which caused me to have to start taking inventory. So what happens when someone who you thought was a friend (who a lot of people think is a manipulator) suddenly writes you an unsolicited 3-paragraph email on all the reasons people are put off by you? I felt that this person was trying to control me, by using all of the insecurities that she knew I had. But I also knew there were a lot of half-truths. So I had to take inventory of what information I could use, to see where I could be a better friend. I also had to let go of the need for everyone to like me, or to think I'm perfect. So did this person do me a favor?! Or did she do some damage? Probably a bit of both. I ended up deciding that her issues don't mesh well with my issues, so I try to stay away from her. But since that point, I have tried to look at the things I don't like about other people, and ask whether they are reflections of what I may be inadvertently doing.
Again I'm not a reader, but I luv reading your wrk, fantastic topics! KV America's new sweetheart!
Excellent read and timely in my life. I read this twice and plan on reading it again. Because there is so much there.
You probably touch more people lives than you will ever know. And I am one of them. Thank you for your efforts!
I love it 🔥💕 thank you… what an honor to get those lyrics written from you! I’ll remember them for sure.
Just for kicks, I am a surgical RN and this particular day we were doing a revision infected total knee replacement. The case had been going for two hours with no end near, and we were listening to pandora Journey station, when the surgeon looked at me and said ‘can you play something else, other than this macho radio station?’
I went to YouTube and looked up “60 punishing minutes “ and hit play. The whole room stopped and smiled and requested to know who was playing and proudly said The Bluebonnets!
After words the surgeon thank me for a great upbeat and unknown (sadly) song , but definitely not for a long time fun of yours.
I’m one of those who wants very much for everyone to like me, who knows that not everyone will like, yet knows that it is absolutely might fault every time that someone does not like me.